“Some people create their own storms, but get upset when it rains.”
Our actions have consequences. The result of our choices can be good or bad, but none of us want them to have negative results.
The quote above rings so true in our world. So many of us want what we want when we want it and don’t think about how it could potentially harm ourselves or others.
This makes me think it all starts with our parents. The Bible says
“Don’t fail to discipline your children. The rod of punishment won’t kill them.” Proverbs 23:13 NLT
My pastor mentioned this during service a little while ago. Our parents discipline help us to tackle real life situations, whether we like it or not. I hated it as a child, but my mom would make me take care of my siblings or come home to do chores while I was out with friends. She handed me so much responsibility. Then, I thought she was picking on me, but as an adult I know she was preparing me. Those lessons taught me to love my family and close friends and to help them when they needed me, it taught me to really consider if hanging out was all that important, it taught me that sometimes I have to endure even when I don’t want to because that is the way life goes. Now my choice to live out what I learned is all on me, and not my parents.
I have said all this to say that I feel like there are adults who forget, that when you create your own storm, you can’t be upset when it rains. We all need discipline. We all need someone to remind us when we are right or wrong. We all have to face the results of our actions. Are we really adults if you don’t think so?
I have had to make decisions in life to be that person to show a friend, “Hey, you can’t act that way and expect me to just ignore what you did!” This isn’t an easy position, but it helps the other person. I have also been on the other side of that, with friends, with my parents, and even my husband. It’s always difficult to suffer from a decision you made, but sometimes it is necessary. It’s even more difficult as an adult. Early in marriage I would get upset with my husband for telling me things that were actually true. I thought he was being cruel, and he was saying what needed to be said to break unhealthy patterns in my life. I had to let go of the denial and see it for what it was. If I continued to be offended, I would not experience growth.
I want each of us reading to remember that what we do and how we choose to do it doesn’t always just involve us, but could also attach others to suffer the consequences. AND you can’t be offended or emotional if the parties involved are upset about that. Someone may read this and argue that we should show others grace and mercy because we have all made mistakes. True. Absolute true, but when will repeat offenders be disciplined if they continue to make decisions that effect others? When will someone speak up and say “you’re wrong!” When will someone love enough to tell a person that their self destruction is poisonous to everyone you burden with your issues?
In 2016 I noticed a lot of patterns. Patterns in my own life, patterns in family, and even patterns in spirituality that I had to examine and decide whether I would go with the flow or against the grain. My father helped me with this since his move to Texas. Since moving he is more observant and we talk more about those observations than before. He is also more focused on the task at hand and not allowing emotions to drive him. That taught me a valuable lesson, and strengthened my respect for my parents. We have to be real with ourselves, we have to take discipline whether we like it or not and learn to avoid the storm we created when that issue comes up again in the future.